This advice was given to Umm Ayas Bint Awf Bin Muslim ash-Shaybani by her mother Umamah Bint al-Harith shortly before her wedding. “O my daughter! If the advice were to be left off the virtuous and we…
Rights of a Husband in Islam
It is widely talked about how men don’t know the rights of women in Islam but the reality is that both sides do not have the correct understanding of each others rights. Men in general have a much mor…
Clarify Divorce and Iddah
I have a few questions regarding iddah and divorce that I need clarification in. If the couple is going through Divorce, should they fill out the divorce forms during or after the iddah period? If the…
Visual versus Emotional
Allah has created men and women differently. One of the most pronounced differences between genders when it comes to issues of intimacy is arousal. Each gender has been keyed to respond to different s…
10 Qualities to make a Husband Happy
We all know that Allah subhana wa ta’alaa has described the treatment of the spouses in the Quran as: “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dw…
Long Lasting Marriage Secrets
All of us have met people at least once in our life time that tell you about how long they have been married for and it shocks you. Some go to 20, 30, 40 and even beyond MashAllah. But what we don`t d…
Everything you thought you knew about L-O-V-E is wrong
My parents had an arranged marriage. This always fascinated me. I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. …
Avoiding Suspicion & Infidelity
One of the ills that unfortunately our community is experiencing at this time is of suspicion and infidelity. Below are some steps you can take to avoid this problem in your marriage. A Daily Dose of …
Simple Steps for a Happy Marriage
Sometimes the most obvious things escape from our thought process that can bring about so much prosperity in our Marriage. We wanted to shed light upon some of these issues so you are aware of them an…
Improving Communication with your Spouse
Below are some simple small steps you can take to make improvements in your communication with your spouse. Communication is key to the success of your marriage and a strong long lasting relationship.…
Tips for a Happy and Successful Marriage
The following are some amazing tips that every couple should follow to have a happy and successful marriage: Get married with the right intention and go forward step by step: Both spouses should get m…
I Love You!
This is for all our happily married couples who are getting used to the 3 words “I Love You” and it has become habit of sorts. I know all of us have tried to spice it up by saying ”Uhibbuk” or “Uhibbu…
Love during Ramadan
The religion of Islam is complete, and we are lucky to have received divine guidance in all matters. Be it religious in nature, or be it a part of our daily human necessities. In the Quran, Allah tell…
The Spark is Missing!
People are quick to point to the aptly named “spark” as being the problem in almost all relationships beyond the exciting wedding and honeymoon phase. Even within our Muslim community, people tend to …
Making Time For Your Spouse
Making time for your spouse is one of the leading factors towards maintaining a healthy marriage. In this fast paced world, a persons scheduled is packed with activities. Whether a person has children…
Key Advice for the Newly Wed
It is common for scholars and teachers to be asked for their advice on certain topics and situations. As Muslims we put a trust in our scholars and teachers as long as they are not doing anything agai…
Controlling anger before it controls you!
”I was so angry and in the process divorced my wife! I did not mean to!” How many times have we heard this line? May Allah protect the ummah…Ameen. Dear reader, all of us at some time or another have…
Interfaith Marriages in Islam
We have received some questions recently regarding interfaith marriages. This is an easy topic but we have to keep in mind that there is a difference amongst the scholars on some of the issues. We wil…
My Husband won’t help with the Housework!
If there is a universal complaint from wives about their husbands, it would have to be that their husbands don’t help around the house. This complaint seems to transcend culture, location, ethnicity a…
The Honeymoon
For all those who believe that the first stage of marriage, also commonly known as the honeymoon stage is all about romance and lovey dovey stuff, here is a reality check: The first year of a marriage…
The Ten most common Myths about Marriage
What do myths and marriage have in common? 1. Must resolve conflict before going to bed = False This is how it goes: a couple should never leave a conflict unresolved at night. Consider the facts: bot…
Marital problems… Who should I ask for Help?
As any couple can imagine, it is a very difficult to realization or accept that something is wrong and professional help is needed. Many a times nagging problems of the past keep on consistently putti…
Let’s talk it out!
Below we outline what constitutes as good communication in a marriage. If you can ensure that every correspondence between you and your spouse meets these criteria, then you are on the way to eternal …
Extent of husband’s relatives interfere in their life
What are the rights of the in-laws (the husband’s brothers and sisters) in Islam? Do the father- and mother-in-law have the right of obedience? Do they have the right to enter my room with or without …
Uh Oh, The Honeymoon is Over!
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are …
So what are women looking for in a marriage?
Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love them, cherish them, adore them, be romantic with them, and make them fee…
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
And as we know from before, Tina Turner put it even more bluntly in her next line of her hit song, “What’s love but a second-hand emotion?” You have to give it to song-writers: they really do express …
Bringing Love Into Marriage
Marriage can be a wonderful experience or an awful one, but for most, it is somewhere in the middle, with ups and downs, twists and turns as we get to know and understand our spouses. I am not a marri…
A Wounded Heart
The sudden dreadful crying and screaming woke Zainab up. She lay on her bed, burying her face into the pillow, trying hard to block out the growing noise coming from the other room. It had hardly been…
How to Compromise in Marriage
Marriage is about sharing your whole life with your significant other. From cleaning dishes to life changing decisions – your partner is with you all the way and a lot of things that you do involve yo…