How to Avoid the Pursuer-Distancer Pattern in Your Relationship
How one spouse pushing for closeness while the other pulls away can trap a marriage, and what each person can do to…
from The Gottman Institute2 min read
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Do Opposites Attract or Similarities?
Why couples are usually more different than alike, and why accepting those differences matters more than trying to change them.
from The Gottman Institute2 min read
How soon should money come up in a new relationship?
There’s nothing quite like the rush of a new romantic relationship. But how early in your relationship should you talk about money?
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This Is Love
A spiritual reflection on why chasing the idea of a perfect romance leaves hearts empty, and how love rooted in God becomes…
from Yasmin Mogahed2 min read
The Stigmatisation of Disabled Muslims
Why disabled Muslims, especially sisters, face stigma in community and marriage, and how families, advocates and faith can help change those attitudes.
from The Muslim Vibe2 min read
Using Communication Technology to Improve Relationships
Research suggesting that texts, calls and messages can strengthen a marriage when they flow smoothly into face-to-face time, plus practical tips to…
from Psychology Today2 min read
Technoference: How Technology Can Hurt Relationships
What a study of 143 wives and partners found about phones, TV and screens interrupting couple time, and three simple ways to…
from Institute for Family Studies2 min read
How Our Expectations Are Changing Marriage
How rising expectations of a spouse have raised the ceiling on marital happiness, and why reaching it takes deliberate time and energy.
from Rewire2 min read
Assuming Positive Intent is a Relationship Superpower—Here’s Why
If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a couples therapist and organizational psychologist, it’s that many relationship conflicts emerge from a single…
from The Founders Foundry2 min read
The Negativity Thermostat: Why Adjusting the Temperature Early Can Save Your Relationship Later
Why happy couples notice and respond to small shifts in negativity early, and practical tools for resetting the emotional temperature of your…
from The Gottman Institute2 min read
The Secret to Love is Just Kindness
What decades of Gottman research reveal about couples who stay happily married, and why everyday kindness and responsiveness matter so much.
from The Atlantic2 min read
6 Interracial Couples That Prove Race Is No Barrier In Islam
Muslim couples from different ethnic backgrounds share how they navigated their first Ramadans together, cultural differences and, for one couple, family opposition.
from Have Halal Will Travel2 min read