Stop. Put down your phone. Look around you. What’s going on? Have you really taken a moment to sit back and look at what’s happening? Time goes by so fast, and it goes by even faster when you’re glued to your phone and stalking every form of social media he has.
Why are you doing this to yourself? Is he really that great if you have to sit around all day and think of every possible scenario of why he isn’t texting you back? I’ve been in this trap before… and it’s deadly.
One minute you’re the easy-going, not-so-clingy, relaxed person you’ve always been. As the days go on, you start getting more comfortable with this guy. Now it’s become a habit to check your phone the second you wake up to see if he texted you. That one day comes that you don’t get that “good morning” text and your heart sinks. Questions like, “did I do something wrong?” or, “am I annoying him?” flow through your mind. When this happens, this is your sign that you need to stop.
In that moment, you let him win. He has officially taken control of the relationship and he’s the one who has you hooked. It’s sad that dating in today’s society has come down to a competition of who can care less… but that’s the truth. It’s always a matter of who can take longer to text back or who can seem less needy rather than two people who want to express their love for each other.
At what point is it okay for the girl to fight for the guy? Isn’t winning the girl over a significant part of what chivalry is? The guy is supposed to fight for our attention, buy us flowers, try to prove himself to us. The sad realization I had was that I was fighting to keep the guy… I was the one trying to force a relationship on someone who clearly didn’t appreciate me enough.
We are young and single, ladies. I know it sucks being this age in a world that tells us we should be taking candid laughing pictures and posting our dates on Instagram so we can have over a hundred likes and people will comment “relationship goals.” We want other people to think we have the perfect relationship… but do you? Is it a relationship you’re wanting or is it just the attention? To quote the wise words of J. Biebs, “Am I in love with you or am I in love with the feeling?”
Trust me, I struggle with this every. single. day. I bend God’s ear talking about this. I pray so hard that I can just be satisfied with this season of singleness. There’s so many advantages of being single that we never think about. This is our time to be spontaneous, go on road trips with girlfriends, go on dates with other genuine men that are actually interested in you, and want nothing more than just to have the pleasure of paying for your dinner.
Ladies. You are far better than the guy who isn’t texting you back. You deserve so much more respect than the guy who ignores your calls. You deserve a man that will go to church with you on Sundays, drink a beer and eat pizza with you on Friday nights, that will love your future children, that will respect you and treat you like a queen.
So get off your phone, delete his number, don’t live for the Instagram likes but live for the actual moments in life. Every memory is so precious and sweet. You’ll never get these years back, so make the most of it and don’t worry about the next guy, the last guy, or any guy really. Mr. Right will come along when God says you are both good and ready. Right now, you both just have a little bit more learning to do, and being patient enough will make for a stronger relationship that’ll make you realize why no one else worked out.
“Trust me, she knew who she was dancing with the entire time. She just chose to see the good in everybody. I personally don’t think she should change that about herself. It’s possible her energy could bring out the best in the devil.”