Not being able to manage your anger is one of the biggest causes of marriage breakups and surprisingly enough being angry has many physical side effects as well. Research conducted by Duke University has shown that people who are chronically angry have up to 7 times more risk of dying from heart disease and cancer compared to people who are not. Now when we think of anger we think a person shouting, screaming, hitting or just going crazy is Anger but that is not true. A person can be angry inside but doesn’t reveal or channel their anger. Now the reality is that people who hold things in are more harmful to themselves and others as compared to ones to release it in any fashion. So you may be asking what’s the cure for anger?
The solution is simple and three steps; when angry ask yourself these questions.
1. How important is this issue?
2. Is my anger justified?
3. Can I do anything to fix the situation?
If you answer no to any of these questions then you leave it and relax. Now you must find a way to relax yourself. An activity such as sports, working out, a jog, a walk, going for coffee, reading Quran or listening to a lecture, anything that works for you and puts your mind at ease. If you find your answer to be all yes then you need to take assertive action and make it known why you are angry and let it out otherwise keeping it in will be more harmful for you and your partner.