The issue of chores or housework in a marriage may start off small however it can escalate into larger problems and can eventually ruin the relationship or end the marriage. We already know from the Sunnah, that the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) used to perform chores at home, especially those pertaining to his own needs, such as repairing his shoes, clothes, etc.
One way that you can maintain a sound relationship is by dividing up the chores. Generally, a Muslimah (Muslim woman) wife is at home more of the time and will be doing most of the housework. However, the husband can take responsibility and do his share of the chores around the home.
A few important tips when deciding what chores to do can be found below:
1. As a couple decide how much time each person can dedicate each week to chores. Take into account of the amount of time each spouse will spend at home on average. Usually a Muslim man is at home less due to work and other issues, whereas the Muslim woman is at home more.
2. Make a list of the chores at home. Then see which chores each spouse prefers and which chores each spouse detests to do. Using the time each person can dedicate fill in chores accordingly into the schedule.
3. Keep a list of chores along with a schedule of when each chore is to be performed. If one spouse forgets or cannot do a chore this week then makeup for it by doing an extra chore next week.
4. Be flexible. Sometimes things come up, but don’t nag the spouse to keep doing the chores. Keep the list and schedule in a very visible place so that without nagging the spouse is reminded of the outstanding chore.
5. Be flexible in how your spouse accomplishes the chores. If folding towels a certain way is important to you then take the responsibility of doing it that way.
Finally, remember that doing small things like chores can go a long way to improving your relationship. Some weeks try doing extra chores to alleviate the pressure off your spouse without him or her asking you.
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