Salma” and “Hassan” were about to call it quits. She was fed up with his behavior and both of them argued to the point that they wanted to divorce. But a couple of meetings with a lo…
6 tips for friends and family for dealing with marital disputes in the West
Family and friends can play an important but hidden role in helping married couples maintain a strong relationship. Parents, parents-in-laws and friends all can help a couple work through their disagr…
Preparing Muslims for Marriage
Marital problems among Muslims in America are of increasing concern. Issues like divorce and domestic violence are taking their toll on Muslim families throughout America. Imams, Muslim Social Workers…
Conquering marriage boredom
10 tips to spice up your marriage You’ve moved past that giddy “honeymoon phase” and settled into a comfortable lifestyle with your spouse. You revel in each other’s company an…
The Sakinah Healthy Marriage Initiative (SHMI)
Building Healthy Marriages and Families Among Muslims in America The Islamic Social Services Association’s Sakinah Healthy Marriage Initiative (SHMI) is calling on national and local organizatio…
Getting to know someone for marriage
Marriage in Islam is one of the most important decisions a person will make in their life, after all the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) reminded us that marriage is “half of your faith.” Marriage…
Rights of a Husband in Islam
It is widely talked about how men don’t know the rights of women in Islam but the reality is that both sides do not have the correct understanding of each others rights. Men in general have a much mor…
What is Khula?
If a woman is wanting to seek Khulaa (female initiated divorce) due to mistreatment by the husband, does she have to give back the mahr and the non-mahr gifts received during the wedding time? Also, k…
10 Qualities to make a Husband Happy
We all know that Allah subhana wa ta’alaa has described the treatment of the spouses in the Quran as: “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dw…
10 Super cool tips to keep your husband happy
Most of life is habitual. You do the same things you did yesterday, the day before and every day for the last month. Habits, good or bad, make you who you are. The key is controlling them. If you know…
7 Things Your Muslim Husband Won’t Tell You
Ever wish you could read your husband’s mind? Western culture encourages husbands and wives to talk to each other and discuss things. However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and t…
Simple Steps for a Happy Marriage
Sometimes the most obvious things escape from our thought process that can bring about so much prosperity in our Marriage. We wanted to shed light upon some of these issues so you are aware of them an…
Rights of a Wife in Islam
The status of women in Islam is that of dignity, honor and respect. The current practices by many Muslim men don’t reflect their true status in our community today. Many men follow more of the cultura…
I Love You!
This is for all our happily married couples who are getting used to the 3 words “I Love You” and it has become habit of sorts. I know all of us have tried to spice it up by saying ”Uhibbuk” or “Uhibbu…
Love during Ramadan
The religion of Islam is complete, and we are lucky to have received divine guidance in all matters. Be it religious in nature, or be it a part of our daily human necessities. In the Quran, Allah tell…
Making Time For Your Spouse
Making time for your spouse is one of the leading factors towards maintaining a healthy marriage. In this fast paced world, a persons scheduled is packed with activities. Whether a person has children…
Controlling anger before it controls you!
”I was so angry and in the process divorced my wife! I did not mean to!” How many times have we heard this line? May Allah protect the ummah…Ameen. Dear reader, all of us at some time or another have…
My Husband won’t help with the Housework!
If there is a universal complaint from wives about their husbands, it would have to be that their husbands don’t help around the house. This complaint seems to transcend culture, location, ethnicity a…
Chores! Chores! Chores! – The Husband Edition
Once the ‘honeymoon’ phase of a marriage is over and the reality of marriage sets in, many small issues may arise that one needs to address right away before they become larger and lead to separation …
When the Ship is Sinking, Throw away the Extra Baggage
When your marriage is in trouble and you’re fighting to keep it from sinking, it’s time to throw away all the extra baggage that’s not helping. You need to be at your highest vigilance in using your i…
Let’s talk it out!
Below we outline what constitutes as good communication in a marriage. If you can ensure that every correspondence between you and your spouse meets these criteria, then you are on the way to eternal …
Wives Dealing With Tough Husbands
Question: In Islam, a man has options to choose from when his wife misbehaves or does something displeasing. For example, negotiating, then leaving her bedroom, and finally hitting lightly (with miswa…
Bringing Love Into Marriage
Marriage can be a wonderful experience or an awful one, but for most, it is somewhere in the middle, with ups and downs, twists and turns as we get to know and understand our spouses. I am not a marri…
Marriage: The Charm of “Thank You”
Consider this scenario: A husband buys a house for his family. You ask the wife if she thanked her husband. Wife replies with a surprise, “Why is that necessary?” You answer, “Because he bought a hous…
His Other Wife: A Short Story
“…So give me a call, Aliyah. I think this may be the one.” Aliyah rolled her eyes as she deleted the voicemail message then pressed the “end call” button on her cell phone. Her uncle had converted to …
Arranged Marriage is not Forced Marriage
Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for (many) Muslims across the world. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their future spouse through family or friends. Since, generally, Musli…
LOVESICKNESS
By no means is love a sickness in and of itself. Indeed, it is the only known cure for many of the problems and ailments that we as human beings suffer from. However, love can turn into an illness if …
How to Deal with Differences in your marriage
Talk about them! We’re not suggesting you discuss politics or fiqhi views the first time you talk to a prospective spouse, but once you are married, discussing the bigger issues is a MUST. Once the di…
What Really Happens to a Marriages After Having Kids?
After enjoying a few years of marriage, most couples – women especially – look forward to kids and the joy of raising a child together. Families welcome a baby with great expectations too. As the coup…
5 Things to Know About Marital Therapy
It is common for couples to seek marital therapy when they are distressed, and perhaps, even contemplating divorce. When it feels like your marriage is “on the line,” the last thing you want to stress…