Posted on 09/02/2013
Being modest and humble might be one of the more rare and underrated qualities today in general, and in men specifically. These days, when so many people try so hard to act like they are so accomplished and wonderful, being humble can make an extremely refreshing impression on those who notice and appreciate and who are as annoyed with bragging and arrogance as they should be. In fact, modesty can be one of the qualities that make a man stand out from the rest as being so much more attractive to women than others for several compelling reasons:
First, the fact alone that modesty is rare will make you different in the eyes of those quality women who can see it and who are not fans of self-absorbed guys who can’t stop talking about how important/rich they are. Smart, perceptive women roll their eyes (mentally or openly) at those types of guys.
Secondly, being modest and not bragging about your accomplishments sends a very strong message about your high level of confidence. It says all the right things about you, i.e. that you don’t feel the need to prove yourself and your worth to anyone, and that’s one of the more clear signs of healthy, low-key self-esteem.
Lastly, a modest guy, who doesn’t share all his skills right away with the women he meets, will score a lot of points but surprising them with his abilities later. If you have certain talents, surprising a woman you met by letting her find out about those qualities later, rather than telling her all about it early on is so much more impressive and makes you so much more attractive. For instance, if you speak a foreign language, or you paint, or play the guitar or have a beautiful house, it would be so much more impressive if the girl you started seeing found out about it in a natural course of things, i.e. hearing you play an instrument or talk a foreign language before knowing you had those skills, or seeing your paintings, or coming over to your nice house before knowing anything about it.
Being modest doesn’t mean that you have to wear the cheapest watch and shoes or that you have to eat at McDonald’s all the time. It also doesn’t mean that you have to act insecure. It only means not talking about your qualities and accomplishments as much as most other people out there seem to be doing, and not acting like you are God’s gift.