Sometimes I would have to reach out to ask for a weekly update. Sometimes the weekly update was to just tell me there is no update, which is understandable, but it would comfort me more to know what is being done ("reached out to several matchmakers, mosques, etc" rather than leaving me feeling as though I'm an afterthought at times). I know that my matchmaker worked hard, but it's very difficult for me to appreciate that beyond the words when I don't know what's really been going on (perhaps she didn't want to hurt my feelings, but instead I became less confident in getting results). I also understand that you have to keep your trade secrets, but there has to be a better middle ground.