This is the hardest to explain: I want the kind of Muslim man who takes his religious duties seriously, but does not look down on others who may not share the same values—someone who doesn’t believe others are automatically headed for hell for not praying regularly, for not being Muslim, for their clothing style or their sexual orientation! We are not the judge of that; Allah is. I firmly our job is just to try and be a good Muslim, which requires us to be good to ALL people, not just those who believe our particular brand of faith. Yet at the same time, I want my future husband to be willing to teach our children a firm distinction between right and wrong . . . 