I was struggling with this-should I tell you what’s really on my mind? I could, but I don’t think it’s the fault of Beyond Chai. I think there are real cultural issues with the way Muslim men look for spouses, rooted in patriarchy, sexism, and ageism. I thought things were getting better, but I was wrong. Until I feel like these things have improved, I’m not eager to be part of a system where men see my age and make a rash decision about my desirability, or baby-making ability, or both.