I totally agree that it is important to take care of one’s own parents on both sides.  I would prefer someone who would be okay to start a life with his wife living on their own.  I do understand that as parents get older, the kids may need to take care of the parents (on both sides) which I agree with.  But in the beginning of the marriage at least, I really think it’s important for a couple to start their own life together independently. 