https:\/\/blog.nikahhalal.com\/muslim-couple-goals-for-a-loving-marriage\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\nMarriage in Islam is a sacred relationship.\u00a0The Prophet (PBUH) said,\u00a0\u201cNo house has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah than through\u00a0marriage.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0On numerous occasions, the benefits of marriage have been mentioned in the Quran and Hadith,<\/strong> such as the completion of half the deen, sustenance, tranquillity, peace, and a bond of love. Yet to reap its fruits in life and hereafter, what are the Muslim couple goals that we shall aim to reach?<\/p>\n\n\n\nMuslim couple goals<\/h3>\n\n\n\n1. Support<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
When the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) received his first revelation, he rushed home to his wife, Khadija (RA). He was shivering, his heart was pounding, and his whole body was sweating. He felt afraid and overwhelmed. Khadija (RA) immediately comforted him by saying,\u00a0\u201cGod will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your kith and kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests generously, and assist those afflicted with calamities who deserve help.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nAfter 15 years of marriage, Khadija (RA) died, and it was called the year of sorrow. Many years later after her death, Prophet Muhamad (PBUH) still loved her and talked about her. He once told Aisha (RA):<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cShe believed in me with all her mind and soul.\u00a0She accepted my message when everyone rejected it.\u00a0When I had no help, she comforted and supported.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nCouples supporting each other through thin and thick are those who appreciate each other\u2019s strengths and challenges. They know when their spouse needs a kind word, a pat on the shoulder for reassurance, or an act of service.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Muslim couple goals<\/h3>\n\n\n\n2. Romance, love, and care<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), with all his duties and burdens, always made time to be thoughtful, caring, and romantic with his wives. He never took his responsibilities as an excuse to neglect romance in his relationships with them. In fact, he regularly expressed his love in different ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Love<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Ayesha (RA) is reported to have said that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) would often eat and drink from the same spot on a vessel or bone as her to show his love. She said:\u00a0\u201cI would drink, then I would hand it [the vessel] to the Prophet (PBUH), and he would put his mouth where mine had been and drink. And I would eat the meat from a bone, and he would put his mouth where mine had been\u201d (reported in Muslim).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nProphet Muhammad (PBUH) also expressed his love for his wives in unique ways. Ayesha (RA) would often ask the Prophet (PBUH), \u201cHow is your love for me?\u201d The Prophet (PBUH) would reply,\u00a0\u201cLike the rope\u2019s knot\u201d (meaning that it was strong and secure). She would often ask after that, \u201cHow is that knot?\u201d and he would reply, \u201cThe same as ever\u201d (reported in Hiya al Awliya).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nProphet Muhammad (PBUH) was gentle with his wives. He described women as fragile vessels as he understood their delicate nature. Moreover, he advised his companions to handle them with care. During his last sermon (khutba al wadaa) he said: \u201cDo treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nIn public<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
The messenger of Allah (SAW) would also console his wives in public when they were upset. Safiyyah Bint Huyyiy (RA) narrated: \u201cThe Messenger of Allah (PBUH) went to Hajj with his wives. On the way, my camel knelt down as it was the weakest among all the other camels, and so I wept. The Prophet came to me and wiped away my tears with his robe and hands. The more he asked me not to weep, the more I went on weeping\u201d (Ahmad). <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Prophet (SAW) did not get embarrassed, angry, or impatient. He just reassured her and compassionately wiped away her tears. He (PBUH) was distinctly kind and considerate to his wives in public. Anas ibn Malik narrates: \u201cI saw the Prophet (PBUH) making for her [Safiyyah] a kind of cushion with his cloak behind him [on his camel]. He then sat beside his camel and put his knee for Safiyyah to put her foot on, in order to ride [on the camel]\u201d (Bukhari).<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nFor instance, once, the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) stopped a whole army in times of hostility in the desert to look for Aisha\u2019s misplaced bead necklace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aisha\u2019s love<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, one day he was fixing his shoes, and Aisha (RA) happened to look at his blessed forehead and noticed that there were beads of sweat on it. Mesmerized by the beauty of her beloved husband, Aisha remained transfixed, staring at him long enough until the Prophet noticed.\u00a0So he asked her, \u201cWhat\u2019s the matter?\u201d Aisha replied, \u201cIf Abu Bukair, the poet saw you, he would know that this poem was written for you.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\nAisha then explained,\u00a0\u201cAbu Bukair said that if you looked to the majesty of the moon, it twinkles and lights up the world for everybody to see.\u201d Then the Prophet (PBUH) got up, walked to Aisha, kissed her between the eyes, and told her, \u201d Wallahi ya Aisha, you are like that to me and more.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n3. Help at home<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
When the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was not engaged in Islamic dawah or the governance and guidance of the community, he would participate in domestic chores and be ready and willing to serve family members.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Al-Aswad reported that he asked Ayesha (RA): \u201cWhat did the Prophet (PBUH) do at home?\u201d She said: \u201cHe used to be at the service of his family; and when it was time for prayer, he would go out to pray\u201d (Bukhari). In another narration, Ayesha (RA) also reported: \u201cHe acted like other men. He would mend his clothes, milk his goat, and serve himself\u201d (Ahmad and Bukhari).<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n4. No place for anger<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
After the wedding ceremony of Fatimah (his daughter) to Ali, he went to their home and advised Fatima to honor her husband. Then, the Prophet (SAW) headed to Ali and told him: \u201d Ali, do not get angry, and when you get angry sit down. Remember Allah\u2019s power over the servants and His tolerance over their sins. If you are advised to fear Allah, abandon your anger,\u00a0and go back to your deliberateness.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nA marriage starting like this could only be a\u00a0blessed marriage. Therefore, Ali and Fatimah\u2019s home, despite being simple, was full of love, mercy, and worship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. Worship together<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Many couples underestimate the miraculous effects of worshipping Allah together and instead complain about the lack of romance in their house. We were mainly created for worshipping, and hence it is one of our duties to help our spouse achieve our aim.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ways to encourage your spouse:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n1. On Jumma, remind them to\u00a0read\u00a0Surah Al Kahf<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Wake them up for fajr<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Encourage each other to fast<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Remind each other with morning, evening, and bed-time azkar<\/p>\n\n\n\n
May your spouses be the coolness of your eyes and your partners in Jannah inshAllah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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