The Gottman Institute on Instagram<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\nMost couples are more dissimilar than similar, and that\u2019s something to celebrate. \u2060Of course, many couples have core values they share, but there are inevitably areas where they are different. These differences may have attracted you to one another at first. For example, perhaps you loved the way your partner lights up when they talk about jazz even though you don\u2019t know Miles Davis from John Coltrane. Maybe you prefer the cozy comforts of home, but you started dating an outdoors enthusiast because they impressed you with their knowledge of nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When opposites clash<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
These differences help opposites attract yet you can find yourselves in relationship trouble if you try to change these differences later. Think of the examples above. What would happen if you start a committed relationship with the music lover, only to complain every time they buy a new jazz record? Conflict can ensue. Even worse, giving the pretense that you love hiking with the outdoors enthusiast only to never set foot on the trail again six months later can lead to a rocky road.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In \u201cEight Dates\u201d Dr. John Gottman notes that the gift of a committed partnership is the ability to see the world through your lover\u2019s eyes and appreciate the beauty that they find.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Celebrate it all<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Learning to understand and accept the ways that you are different is key to creating a lasting connection. \u2060When you can celebrate what makes you opposites, enduring love can be attainable.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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