{"id":2678,"date":"2023-12-31T18:49:54","date_gmt":"2023-12-31T18:49:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/?p=2678"},"modified":"2023-12-31T18:49:55","modified_gmt":"2023-12-31T18:49:55","slug":"relationships-tips-for-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/2023\/12\/31\/relationships-tips-for-success\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationships \u2013 tips for success"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Source: https:\/\/www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au\/health\/healthyliving\/Relationships-tips-for-success<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A \u2018good relationship\u2019 means different things to different people. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect and can communicate with each other, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities. Many people would also expect their relationship with their partner to include love, intimacy, sexual expression, commitment, compatibility, and companionship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Working at a relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Most couples want to have a successful and rewarding relationship, yet it is normal for couples to have ups and downs. To meet these challenges, and to keep your relationship healthy and happy, you need to work at it. Relationships are like bank accounts \u2013 you need to make deposits if you want to be able to make withdrawals. All take and no give may lead to relationship challenges.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tips for a successful relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The following tips may help you improve your relationship (and be better prepared to meet the challenges along the way):<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  • Talk to each other and communicate your needs \u2013 don\u2019t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • If you have something to bring up, do it gently \u2013 going on the attack rarely achieves a positive outcome.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Listen to each other \u2013 often we are so busy defending ourselves or making our own point that we don\u2019t hear what our partner is saying. Let your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. It may help to take five deep breaths before responding.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Remember the positives about your partner \u2013 this helps protect your relationship. One critical comment needs five positive comments to counteract its effect. Think carefully before criticizing.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Make repair attempts \u2013 if your attempts to talk about an issue don\u2019t go as planned, try not to let the situation become even more negative (such as not talking for extended periods or ignoring the other person\u2019s attempts). Saying sorry or touching your partner in a caring manner shows you care, even though you disagree.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Spend time together \u2013 make your relationship a priority and make time for each other, even if you have to book it in. Regular \u2018deposits in your relationship bank account\u2019 will help protect your relationship and make it stronger.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Work on feeling good about yourself \u2013 this will help the way you feel about your relationship.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Accept and value differences in others, including your partner. We often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Make plans \u2013 set goals for your relationship and plan for your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Be supportive \u2013 try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Learn from arguments \u2013 accept that arguments will happen, and try to resolve them with respect. The strongest predictor of divorce is \u2018contempt\u2019, which is any action whereby your partner feels \u2018put down’ by you, whether it is the tone of your voice or what you say. In arguments, we sometimes become overwhelmed and this often leads to behaviors that harm our relationship. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Stay calm during disagreements \u2013 or if this is not possible, take time out. Taking an \u2018us\u2019 perspective that prioritizes the relationship rather than a \u2018you and me\u2019 perspective can be very useful.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Look at your part in the conflict rather than focusing only on your partner\u2019s contribution. Your partner is more likely to acknowledge their contribution if you do the same. Research has shown that relationships fall into difficulty when partners begin to think \u2018here we go again\u2019 and this negative cycle is associated with loneliness, hurt, and disappointment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Be sexually considerate \u2013 be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and sustaining a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple\u2019s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Be attentive \u2013 demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. It is what you do for someone that tells them that you love them. We tend to give our partners what we hope to receive but they may prefer another form of affection. Do they like gifts, quality time with you, a note, or a cooked meal? Once you know what they like, make an effort to provide it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Enjoy yourself \u2013 have fun and celebrate your life together. Rituals can enhance your relationship. It\u2019s also important to try new things as a couple. Doing fun activities together is very important, as often \u2018deep and meaningful\u2019 conversations about couple issues can turn into disagreements which leave you both feeling worse, not better. Fun activities are like glue.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Be flexible \u2013 let your relationship grow and adapt as you both change.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Share power \u2013 ensure that each of you feels that your opinion counts. Research shows that relationships where the female partner feels that she can influence her partner are the most successful.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    Successful long-term relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    In a long-term relationship, it\u2019s easy to assume you know all there is to know about your partner, but people change. Try to be aware of what is happening in your relationship and understand who your partner is and where they are at.

    Stay curious about, but respectful of, each other. It is really important to stay up to date about your partner. Friendship is at the basis of all successful long-term relationships. Successful couples tend to be realists who recognise that a relationship will go through ups and downs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Seeking help for relationship problems<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    If there is something in your relationship that is difficult or painful to talk to each other about, consider seeing a counsellor. A counsellor can be of great value to help you talk things through, particularly if you are going over old terrain and each of you is feeling isolated, disappointed or hurt by the lack of progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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