{"id":2576,"date":"2020-10-18T13:18:38","date_gmt":"2020-10-18T13:18:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/?p=2576"},"modified":"2024-01-14T19:04:16","modified_gmt":"2024-01-14T19:04:16","slug":"the-eight-conversations-that-matter-most-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/2020\/10\/18\/the-eight-conversations-that-matter-most-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"The Eight Conversations That Matter Most in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Drs. John & Julie Gottman
January 30, 2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Source: https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/the-eight-conversations-that-matter-most-in-relationships\/<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some conversations matter more than others in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You connect and fall in love by talking. But what conversations should you have with your partner to know if your love will last\u2014through challenges, surprises, joy, and pain?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Offering empowering ways to discover the love you want and deserve, this extensively tested program of eight fun, conversation-based dates will result in a lifetime of understanding and commitment, whether you\u2019re newly in love or have been together for decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because a happy relationship isn\u2019t the result of having lots of things in common\u2014as we often think. It comes from knowing how to address your core differences in a way that supports each other\u2019s needs and dreams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For forty years, we\u2019ve studied what separates the masters of relationship from the disasters. Here are the eight conversation-based dates for a lifetime of love:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Trust and Commitment. <\/strong>Trust is cherishing each other and showing your partner that you can be counted on. Choosing commitment means accepting your partner exactly as he or she is, despite their flaws.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Conflict.<\/strong> Conflict happens in every relationship, and it\u2019s a myth to believe that in a happy relationship you\u2019ll get along all the time. Relationship conflict serves a purpose. It\u2019s an opportunity to get to know your partner better and to develop deeper intimacy as you talk about and work through your differences.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Sex and Intimacy.<\/strong> Romantic, intimate rituals of connection keep a relationship happy and passionate. Couples who talk about sex have more sex, but talking about sex is difficult for the majority of couples\u2014it gets easier and more comfortable the more you do it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Work and Money.<\/strong> Money issues aren\u2019t about money. They\u2019re about what money means to each partner in a relationship. Discovering what money means to both of you will go a long way in resolving the conflicts you may have around money.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Family.<\/strong> Approximately two-thirds of couples have a sharp drop in relationship satisfaction shortly after a child is born, and this drop gets deeper with each subsequent child. To avoid this drop in relationship happiness, conflict needs to be low and you need to maintain your sexual relationship.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. Fun and Adventure.<\/strong> Play and adventure are vital components for a successful and joyful relationship. It\u2019s okay if you and your partner have different ideas about what constitutes play and adventure. The key is for you to respect each other\u2019s sense of adventure and what it means to that partner.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. Growth and Spirituality.<\/strong> The only constant in a relationship is change. The key is how each person in the relationship accommodates the growth of the other partner. Relationships can be more than just two individuals coming together\u2014they can be stories of transformation and great contribution and meaning to the world.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  8. Dreams<\/strong>. Honoring each other\u2019s dreams is the secret ingredient to creating a love for a lifetime. When dreams are honored, everything else in the relationship gets easier.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

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    Drs. John & Julie GottmanJanuary 30, 2019 Source: https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/the-eight-conversations-that-matter-most-in-relationships\/ Some conversations matter more than others in relationships. You connect and fall in love by talking. But what conversations should you have with your partner to know if your love will last\u2014through challenges, surprises, joy, and pain? Offering empowering ways to discover the love you want […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2579,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[564,1120],"tags":[1122,1154,507,1147],"class_list":["post-2576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-featured-posts","category-healthy-relationships","tag-healthy-relationship","tag-online-dating-service-for-marriage","tag-relationship-advice","tag-single-muslims"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2576","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2576"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2576\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3247,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2576\/revisions\/3247"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2579"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2576"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2576"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2576"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}