By Fran Creffield<\/p>\n
So\u00a0you\u2019ve\u00a0found a match you\u2019re interested in and the feeling is mutual \u2013 but now what? Meeting an online match in person is the crucial next step but how long should you wait before you suggest or agree to it?<\/b><\/p>\n
Online dating\u00a0can be a lot of fun \u2013 as the film\u00a0You\u2019ve Got Mail\u00a0<\/em>showed so brilliantly. It\u2019s exciting to see a new email from a love interest; you can read their romantic messages over and over again,\u00a0reading\u00a0between the lines and developing all sorts of fantasy scenarios in your head. It\u2019s fun, but it doesn\u2019t become \u2018real\u2019 until you meet up in person and find out if there\u2019s a spark between you. But how soon? A number of factors will affect how long you wait and each situation will be unique,<\/p>\n Some people like to meet up with their matches as soon as possible, especially if they\u2019re local. This can be done very safely if you choose a daytime meeting in a busy local cafe and arrange to have a\u00a0quick coffee\u00a0to decide if you\u2019d like to get to know each other better. This approach has many advantages: you can learn more about someone within 10 minutes of meeting them than you would in hours of carefully constructed emails. This is also a good approach for people who aren\u2019t confident expressing themselves in writing. Meeting up for a coffee date also gives you less time to get anxious or self-conscious because there\u2019s less build up. Financially, it also allows you to meet lots of matches without splashing out on expensive dates.<\/p>\n This approach won\u2019t suit everyone. Some people are anxious to know all they can about someone before meeting them. This is perfectly understandable, and you shouldn\u2019t meet up with anyone if you\u2019re unsure or uncomfortable about it. The same\u00a0safety rules\u00a0apply to a coffee date as any other date; check in with a friend before and after and make sure you have enough money to get home.<\/p>\n Most people choose to wait until there are enough signs that the other person is interested in them before they suggest meeting up. These signs may include:<\/p>\n Of course, it can take time for all of this to come to light, but it may be worth waiting if you want the assurance that someone is really into you before you steel yourself for meeting up face to face.\u00a0The danger with this approach is that the longer the \u2018getting to know you\u2019 process goes on, the higher the expectations of both people can become \u2013 the higher the expectations are, the bigger the potential disappointment if you do finally meet and there\u2019s no chemistry between you.<\/p>\n While circumstances, distance and other factors all play a part it\u2019s reasonable to expect that, after six weeks of regular online contact, the subject of meeting in person will have been discussed.\u00a0If meeting up is difficult because of location then an exchange of phone numbers might be the step that takes your\u00a0communication\u00a0offline and off the site. Talking on the phone, or over Skype, will help you decide whether to overcome the obstacles to meeting because you\u2019ll get a more realistic idea of whether there\u2019s a strong connection between you.<\/p>\n Waiting for the other person to suggest a meeting is fine but if it isn\u2019t forthcoming, you may need to give them a nudge in the right direction and let them know that you\u2019d welcome meeting up.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t be shy. It can never be a \u2018real\u2019 relationship until you meet the \u2018real\u2019 person and if it doesn\u2019t work out you will both be free to move on and connect with other matches.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" By Fran Creffield So\u00a0you\u2019ve\u00a0found a match you\u2019re interested in and the feeling is mutual \u2013 but now what? Meeting an online match in person is the crucial next step but how long should you wait before you suggest or agree to it? 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Waiting for the green light<\/h3>\n
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How long is too long before meeting up?<\/h3>\n