{"id":1694,"date":"2016-08-24T08:18:19","date_gmt":"2016-08-24T08:18:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/?p=1694"},"modified":"2016-08-24T08:18:19","modified_gmt":"2016-08-24T08:18:19","slug":"long-lasting-marriage-secrets","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beyondchai.com\/blog\/2016\/08\/24\/long-lasting-marriage-secrets\/","title":{"rendered":"Long Lasting Marriage Secrets"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>All of us have met people at least once in our life time that tell you about how long they have been married for and it shocks you. Some go to 20, 30, 40 and even beyond MashAllah. But what we don`t do is ask how they go there. Below are a few reasons on how they were able to bring longevity to their marriage.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Focus on the big and not the small<\/strong><br \/>\nFocus on the major problems and issues within your marriage and not the minor issues too much. Don\u2019t be worried if the person is moving around in their sleep, or that they don\u2019t put the shower gel back in the proper place but rather focus on major issues like work hours or spending time with kids.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Positive > Negative<\/strong><br \/>\nThink of the positive points about your spouse rather than focusing on the negative all the time. The one you focus on more is the way you are going to feel about your spouse. The more you think about their positive qualities the better you will feel about them and this will increase your love for them. The more you think about their negatives the more animosity you will have towards them. If the negative is a major issue, try to resolve the issue responsibly with a positive attitude. If you bring up the issue with the intention to resolve it, you will find a way to resolve it; and if your intention is to blame the other and provoke a fight then that is exactly what you will get.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Common Ground<\/strong><br \/>\nFind an activity that you both enjoy and can do together on a regular basis; perhaps attending a class together or taking up a hobby together. This will help you feel good about each other and will fulfill each other\u2019s emotional needs. This is just as important for men as it is for women. Create this habit for yourselves and continue changing the activities from time to time, but the main thing is to maintain these activities and keep the relationship alive.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"float: left;\"><span style=\"float:left; padding-right: 15px; padding-bottom: 7px; padding-top: 8px;\"><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script>\r\n<!-- BC300-250 -->\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:inline-block;width:300px;height:250px\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-9441334350567224\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"3883394805\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Harmony<\/strong><br \/>\nIf you desire peace and happiness then be a happy and peaceful person. Be easygoing and stop being upset all the time. This relaxes both parties in a marriage and disputes get easier to resolve since you will be more accommodating when overcoming them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. Put the fire out<\/strong><br \/>\nDon\u2019t overlook problems thinking they will resolve themselves over time without taking any immediate steps to fix them. Be proactive in fixing your issues and don\u2019t sit on the sidelines expecting miracles. Solve your problems, use different techniques from our different articles to bring up issues and resolve them. Ask for professional help if you need to, there is no shame in that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6. Forgive the poor guy<\/strong><br \/>\nMen take longer to adapt to certain things and situations in a marriage so be patient. Patience is the key for women in a marriage. Cut him some slack and he will come around. Positive reminders will do the job, nagging won\u2019t; rather, remind him nicely to keep him motivated.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7. Work Together<\/strong><br \/>\nAlways remember that you are working together in keeping this ship afloat and it doesn\u2019t matter if both are putting in equal work or not. The main objective is to keep it from sinking. So work together and if one isn\u2019t putting in enough effort, encourage them to help you in making it work and help them in getting their focus back on track.<\/p>\n<p><strong>8. Being Perfect?<\/strong><br \/>\nIf you expect your spouse to be perfect then you need to be perfect as well. If you are not perfect then don\u2019t expect them to be perfect either. Be true to yourself and love each other for what you are. As for major things try to resolve them together, but don\u2019t expect a complete metamorphosis in a day.<\/p>\n<p>Image source: http:\/\/www.islam.com.kw\/meaning-marriage-islam\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>All of us have met people at least once in our life time that tell you about how long they have been married for and it shocks you. Some go to 20, 30, 40 and even beyond MashAllah. But what we don`t do is ask how they go there. 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